The use of a chat room can be very rewarding for self pleasuring. After all if you are not using a webcam, and have just an ID then you have the ability to be anonymous. That means you can say the things you want to say, and do what you want in the comfort of your own home without worrying what the other people think. After all, they just have to ignore you or block you. So what?

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So what is a chat room really? There are chat rooms for almost anything from gardening to threesomes, from chocolate making to BDSM. Obviously very important to join the right room and not get confused.

Yahoo chat has rooms that you can join and have sex talk with anybody in the world on almost any sex subject, however your avatar (chat room name) is often linked to your email and therefore your profile. So it is always advisable to set up a completely different Yahoo account, which you only use for chat rooms, and also consider if you want to make up a profile, as many chat rooms like a profile. It does not need to be totally accurate of course.

However, the mainstream chat-rooms like Yahoo and MSN and the rest may not be the best places to go to, as they tend to be full of time-wasters and you have no idea if these people actually share your fantasies and needs. The better places to go are to chat rooms that are within real sex sites, therefore you know the people there are in the chat-room are serious and there for the same reasons you. There are several chat rooms that are free to use without signing up, which are for adult sex talk. This is a really simple place to start, and will get you used to chatting and responding to people. There are a number of rooms that you can get into. This really is a room to learn about IM (Instant Messaging). Your ID is linked to nothing , and you can really talk freely. Nobody knows who you are.

There are many free sites to practice on,  and just type in “free sex chat” to your browser to find them. The next step is that you will need to sign up. Here you give information, but you don’t have to give real names but you will need an e mail address to activate the account. Again you can just set up a separate e mail account to make this work for you. This needs to know your general location and details of your age etc. There really is not much point to lie here, be honest, that is unless you just want to jerk off and leave. The sites normally ask for a picture too, now here you need to be careful. Choose a picture that makes you look at your best, but ensure it gives no other details in the background about your car or family, etc.

Of course a site that is free needs to make money some how, why else would it be there? Just remember that you may get a lot of ads in the site, and maybe a few unwelcome e mails too. Free comes at a price sometimes.

Once into a cyber chat, you will often have the choice to talk with or without a cam, and you may have a choice of rooms to join, and can message the people in that room, or even just one. Best advice here is to just put a hello line as you enter the room, otherwise people may think you are just a lurker. With all sites like this it will always be a hit and miss who is going to be there, but you can look local. Remember the free sites may not be technically brilliant, but here you can practice and get a little feeling of what you can do.

It only takes a few minutes to find free sex chat rooms. For sites that have a price to register and search you will get more people in the rooms and you will also know that these people have SIGNED up to exactly what you are looking for.  Some of the sites we have sites we discussed before like Fling.Com,  Adultfriendfinder.com, Sexsearch.com , which have great chat rooms. These will have profiles, pictures and ways of contacting the people outside of the chat room. Remember people do not stay on the chat room 24/7, so joining a site that has many signed up members, allows you to contact them outside the chat-rooms too.

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It is very easy to say in the chat-room AGE/STATS/LOACTION (ASL), but that is SO boring, and this information can be found mostly in your profile. The most important way to attract somebody is in your nickname or avatar you choose to enter the room with. For example joining a room for “marriage” would be wrong if your nickname was “fuckandgo”, or if you wanted to meet a slave the nickname “tenderloving man” will just not do it.

So it is important to take the time to choose a nickname that will get attention from people as you enter the chat-room. You may get a PRIVATE chat. This means that someone in the room likes your nickname and probably your profile, and wants to talk to you privately. This is great news. Do not fear it, just embrace it. After all this is why you joined the site.

A private conversion is fun, but you need to keep your personal security in mind too. Don’t start talking about your job, wife, kids or money problems. Keep it to the topic of the room, tell them your fantasies and needs. If they don’t agree, they will just go. If you disagree you just go. It is as simple as that. But stay polite!

Looking on the bright side you may find that person worth talking to in the future, so you can save them somewhere on the system. You then will know when they are online again, and in most cases you will be able to contact them in the internal e mails systems. Do not rush to meet. You must take the time to be sure that this is what you want, and make sure you discuss your fears as well.

Everyone of us has different feelings about our own fantasies. Assuming you like BDSM and after five chats you find the other person wants to be a master, but you want to be a slave. It is still great to talk and learn from them and a meet could be really worthwhile.

Some chat systems allow you to have private groups, this is where you can talk to a handful of people without having to broadcast to the whole room. This would be great if trying to set up an orgy meet, or even a mutual jerk off session. The chat-room opens up a world that is not only talking about your sexual fantasy, but will allow you to find like minded people to indulge in the same.

Every sexual subject has a chat-room somewhere on the internet, and as the weeks go on we will look  at some of those sites in more detail. But for the beginner the chat rooms are a safe and fun place to talk and get off in. Joining is always simple, and the confidence this will give you is unmeasurable.

Be Sure You Know Who You Are really Talking To

There are many chat rooms on IRC, MSN or alike. Yes they may allow you to jerk off, but the people there can be 12 year old or 65 years old. They can be in Russia or Ireland. They can lie all the time. The chances of knowing what sort of person you are talking, is much easier if they join registered networks where there is at least some confirmation of e mails etc. Always be careful. You are joining the chat-rooms to get sex, others may be fraudulent in joining and are looking for money. If anyone asks for money, you really should just consider blocking them.

For good quality sign up sites with the ability to chat to other members, then take a look at our earlier recommendations in Luring Your Fuck Buddy