I hate violence and I hate confrontation. I hate seeing people being hurt in sports like boxing. So why do I love being put over a guys knee, and getting a gentle, or not so gentle spanking. I love the feeling of being held over a guys naked body, to look down at his feet as he spanks me, like a naughty school girl. I even love being spoken to as a little girl during this sex fantasy session. Of course it is a little BDSM, and it is also a great fetish to indulge in.

Over The Knee Spanking

I do not recall ever being spanked like that as a kid, I have never been into self hurt, but I love a gentle spanking before sex. The whole thing is to relinquish the control totally over to the man. I want him to put me in my place, I want him to ensure that I am ready for his advances or, as the fantasy goes, I cannot resist his advances as I am a weak woman. Right!

This is ALL fantasy. I love to to read light fantasies that get me in the mood. I have been reading a selection of books about light bondage and spanking, these books always get me in the mood. When I read these books alone I cannot help but want a real meet, and become the characters in the book. Now these books are NOT Mills and Boon, but they are entertaining, and they open up your mind to what else you and your sex partner can get involved in. These books have made me fall in love with the whole fetish lifestyle. Life is too short, not to try.

I came across this on the Bondage 24/7 site.

The things you can do in training is much the same as you’d train a child or an athlete:  pick your small target, induce her to reach the goal, reward her emotionally and physically.  Then set the bar higher.  When training your submissive wife you’re also training yourself in how to sexually dominate your wife.  Sure there should be some basic beginners bondage.  But these are all the big things that can come later.  Simple truth is that you don’t need to master bondage, domination, sado-masochism, or female slave training to sexually dominate your wife.

In the short term, what you need to do is to find ways of getting your submissive wife to express her desires to you without having to say them in words.  Then you can take her step by step towards living out her unstated fantasies.  Each of these is the small steps you need to give her and the excitement she’ll get from living out those unstated fantasies will be a big reward each time.

I have began to see that you guys love to see us girls under your control. And guys we love to be mosly under control, as long as you are good at what you do, and you are going to play the fantasy out over a long period of time. We do NOT want a three minute play spank, followed by intercourse and DONE. No, please make it a long session. Make the spanking fetish work for us both. You guys get the control, and the feel of using our ass. Put on the oils, then spank, more oils, and spank again. Massage us, feel us, and then use the spanking to get you fully erect.

So how do you dominate us girls properly?

It takes time to learn to drive a car, or even to learn how to romance a woman. So the domination of a woman through to light S&M is not natural, so guys you will need help. Have a look at an excellent little book called How To Dominate Her, which shows you how to make this a fun fantasy, and not a cock up, and it also helps to solve the misunderstandings that can occur through role play.

We do NOT want to be scared during this, it is sexual fun, and therefore we never want to feel uneasy about what you are doing.

I want you guys to know that women make excellent masters too. So if you guys want us to wear the leather and hold the whips, and have you at our feet. You only need to ask.

Any questions then why not Ask Lexxi?