You’ve initiated contact, exchanged a few emails, flirted a bit in chatrooms, etc. But how do you know if you’re making the right “moves”? Do you know what the typical online dating mistakes are, and do you know how to avoid them? This review will give you some pointers on the etiquette of talking to potential fuck buddies. Casual relationships may seem to have a simple, “let’s get right down to business” feel, but getting there requires a lot of art and subtlety. By the end of this lesson, you’ll be on your way to becoming the Don Juan of casual sex!

5 Things That Will Turn Off Your Fuck Buddy

Finding out the things that will turn off any potential fuck buddies is important – it’s probably more important than finding out what turns them on. You won’t even get to first base if you actually do the following things:

• Talk about your life, especially your problems, at length. Both men and women do not like people who don’t keep their mouths (in this case, your keyboard) shut. It makes you look incredibly needy and codependent. If you’re looking for a fuck buddy and you’re making the mistake of giving everyone your autobiography, this is actually the message you’re sending: “I have a lot of things I want to talk about, and my favorite thing to talk about is myself. In fact, I’m not stopping at this 5-page letter to you, I’m actually going to talk to you throughout our entire sex act.” The same goes for the quantity of emails you send out – keep it to a minimum of 2 per day. You have to keep in mind that even email is considered as a conversation. You say a few sentences, keep things short, and ask questions. That’s it. Keep the atmosphere light. Save the whining and psychoanalysis for your therapist.
• Don’t lie – not even about your sexual experience. If you’ve had very little or no sexual experience, you can’t get a woman more interested by declaring that you’re a man-ho. Compensate your lack of sexual experience with your eagerness to learn, instead. After all, it’s the QUALITY of your lovemaking skills that’s important. Read up on some sex tips, especially oral sex. Don’t depend on porn, because it’s incredibly unrealistic. The important thing is to always be honest. A woman can smell a lie a mile away, so don’t risk your chances by lying.
• Only reply to the messages of women you’re interested in. While being contacted by a dozen women sounds like a dream come true, you don’t want to spread yourself too thinly. Do you honestly want to spend most of your waking hours replying to emails? And if you’ve got bad memory skills, you might even forget what you said to these women, and end up looking as if you’re not paying attention. Don’t settle for quality just because you want to brag to your friends about the quantity of contacts you’re getting.
• Even if you get nothing but positive responses and compliments, don’t act like you’re God’s gift to women. This can make you look like an egomaniac, and, if anything, your potential fuck buddies will see that this is your attitude in bed as well.
• Be sexual, but don’t sound like a pervert. While you’re looking for a woman who wants to keep things casual, this doesn’t mean that she feels like a prostitute. Save your dirtiest thoughts for the bedroom, but if she wants to get down and dirty via email before your actual encounter, let her initiate it. “You look hot” or “You look delicious” is fine, but not all women are comfortable with “I want to put my d**k in your a** and pump you like a jackhammer”

5 Things That Will Heat Up Your Fuck Buddy’s Interest

Now that you know what pitfalls to avoid when contacting potential fuck buddies, it’s time to learn about the sexy qualities you should cultivate. There’s a lot of competition out there, but by following these five simple tips, you can easily stand out:

• Be mysterious. It doesn’t mean that you have to be quiet and cryptic. Tell her that you know a few tricks in the bed, but don’t tell her exactly what these are. Being mysterious is all about giving just enough information to get her intrigued, but without giving her too much that she feels like she knows everything that she can possibly know about you. If you’re the CEO of IBM, you shouldn’t say it directly as even very good things tend to sound unbelievable on the internet. Instead, say something like “I’m in a very powerful position in the workplace, and I love it. How about you? Are there any positions you like?” Not only are you giving off an aura of confidence of power, but you’re being subtly sexual as well.
• Highlight your personality and individuality. This helps you stand out from the millions of guys who are also scouring the internet for fuck buddies. Find an original way to sign out other than by saying “bye”. Try to come up with nicknames for her – just avoid nicknames that are meant for romantic couples. If the two of you like a certain book, movie, or tv show, feel free to make references to that. As much as possible, you should use a unique sign in name as well – this is especially helpful if you have a very common name.
• Project sexual confidence. No, you don’t do this by saying “I’m good in bed”. You project sexual confidence when you tell her that you’re a great dancer (but only if you really are), that you’re experimental and willing to try new things, and that it gives you a lot of pleasure to make a woman’s fantasy come true.
• Have a unique angle. You want a fuck buddy, but so does Tom, Dick, and Harry. They all say “oh I can give you great sex” etc. It may be true, but where’s the wow factor? Where’s the creativity? Where the unique hook that will let you get all the ladies? While I can’t give you your own unique angle, I can give you tips to help you come up with your own. If you’ve got a talent for art, your headline could read “Be the next Mona Lisa: Immortalize yourself in a work of art and have great sex at the same time!” This means that your “winning” fuck buddy will not only get the privilege of sharing a bed with you, but you’ll also get to do her portrait. If you’re a great chef, your hook could be that after your first session, you’ll cook a great meal for her that’s worthy of 5 Michelin stars. Just don’t make your offers too romantic, as it will make your intentions blurry.
• Be a little “unattainable”. You don’t have to reply to every single email or instant message she sends out. By becoming a little bit unattainable, you exude more mystery. As we all know, mystery creates sexual tension. She shouldn’t just “like” you, you have to make her really want you. Also, if she asks you how many replies your ad has received, don’t be shy to say anything more than 10 Especially if it’s true.

Summary…

You probably feel like you’re finally ready to meet your fuck buddy in person – but don’t do it just yet. You have to know what to do in bed, what to say, and how to be the best sex she’s ever had.

MEETING YOUR FUCK BUDDY