As the 2000′s continue, it is obvious that the mainstream population has become less and less judgemental about sexual preferences and partners. In most forward thinking cities throughout the world it is much easier to spot gay and lesbian couples holding hands and being open about their affections for each other.

But what about the guys who are not gay, but want to know more about the fun of being with another man with no intentions of making it his way of life? What about the married man who wants to explore the sensations with a man, but would prefer them not to be gay? Is it possible?

Perhaps you have always known you are bisexual and attempted to suppress it,  or perhaps you’re entering your adult life, or perhaps you’re ready for retirement. The fact of the matter is that you’ve come to a point where you’re starting to realise that you cannot deny or ignore these “stirrings”.

Am I Bisexual?

Well the bisexual man is probably the answer, as being a true bi sexual man means you are not worried by having man to man fun, but you are still attracted to woman too. The degree of bisexuality is so individual, that it would be impossible to go through it in too much detail here. But the best way of thinking about this is to imagine a scale of 1 to 100, and every-man will be at a different level in their bisexuality and attraction to men along that scale. And remember if you are considering having fun with another man, even if it is only once, then you also have a measure of bisexuality too.

Before considering a bisexual encounter, set your own rules. Just like the scale we mentioned above, there is another essential scale to use, and that is to decide what you want to try. For instance are you looking for a man to make love to you? Or are you looking for a man you want to make love to? All this may be very scary, as it may seem a little frightening at first, but the rules that apply to meeting a girl, also apply to meeting a man.

Now you have discovered that you have sexual fantasies that involve men, and found that whenever you watch pornography you’re focusing more and more on the guys, and you are experiencing arousal when you see other naked guys. Regardless of how you’ve become aware of your feelings, the thing that stands out to you is the fact that you’ve come to realise that you have desires for men.

Man to Man Action

You may have heard of the terms “Bi-curious” and “Bisexual”, but you haven’t paid much attention to what they mean because you didn’t believe that they applied to you. However, you’ve now come to a place where you realise that in order to better understand yourself and where these desires are coming from.

Select the age, looks of the guy you wish to meet. Decide if you just want to kiss and cuddle, or if you wish to try mutual jerking, giving a blow job or even sexual penetration. All these items need to be considered before you meet, as neither of you want to have any misunderstandings at such an intimate moment, and neither should be scared or worried. Set the rules before you meet and meet in safe place.

Is Male Sex so Different?

Men treat sex differently from women, as men can be very mechanical about their sexual needs, so it should be much easier to tell and agree terms with your forthcoming sex partner. Man to man action does not make you gay! This may be the only time, or one of many times you will enjoy male sex. Remember if you are still enjoying the thoughts and the act of loving a woman, then you are not gay, but you are bisexual so just enjoy it.

There are hundreds and hundreds of sites that allow you to meet bisexual guys, as the mainstream sites are all coming online to meet this need and cater for this easily.
Take a look at sites like Adult Friend Finder, this site caters for everything. If you feel you are in sexual confusion, and having trouble controlling your sexual desires and the guilt that may go with it. Then join this site, you will be surprised just how many people feel the same.

When you look at sites  like Fling.com it is great to see that they cater for people like you and I, and the man down the road. There is NO stigma, just a professional way to help to meet someone who can cater for your desires, without causing problems.

Of course there is no need to meet for real, you can meet up on web-cam and chat lines like IRC CHAT, although it can be very hard to really know who you really are talking to. It is much better to join a bona fide site. If you are married and petrified of causing a marital problem, then a site like Sex Search is worth a good look at. The site has many married bi-men who understand the issues that go with that. It is not a pornographic site at all, and is well worth a look at.

Needless to say meeting someone of any sex, requires you to be careful. So take a look at our section on searching for your fuck buddy.