After learning some golden tips from the previous lesson, you’ve now created an online profile that aims to lure the ladies. You must be kidding yourself if you think that’s enough. With all the competition out there, you have to do something to stand out. You have to be more proactive.

The first thing you can do is to use the various “advanced searches” featured in the online dating sites you’re registered with. You often get more options and search functions with paid memberships, so try not to limit yourself to simple searches. Keep in mind that a lot of sexy women frequent these sites, so I can’t blame you if you have a hard time choosing! Every site has a unique search feature, and it’s best to familiarize yourself with these features before you get too excited.

Choosing the Best Site for You

Every reputable sex personals site on the internet has its own unique personality. While you can go ahead and sign up with the first personals website you see, it’s best to apply for full membership with a site that reflects your own tastes when it comes to sex and fun. This will also allow you to attract fuck buddies that have the same needs and wants as you do. Here’s a brief overview of the top three “adult” personals sites on the web:

Fling.com

Fling.com tags itself as “the hottest place to hook up”, and from all indications, they’re really heading in that direction. It’s one of the most talked about sites right now with a tremendous growth rate. It seems like everyone is trying to get a piece of the action. The best thing about this site is the no holds barred approach it takes to their members’ tastes. Depending on your mood, you can hook up with men, women, couples, and even transsexuals. Fling.com is bound to satisfy even the most adventurous in bed. On your profile, you can specify whether you’re looking for fun, fetish, sexual relations, or just flirting around online. The live webcam option also opens up a lot of virtual possibilities for those who have wild imagination. Adding all these features and a free trial membership option, the opportunity in Fling.com is quite a steal.
SexSearch.com

SexSearch is one of the fastest growing sex personals websites out there, and it’s no surprise. They truly live up to their name – their website provides one of the most extensive search functions out there. Are you a woman seeking for a gay couple? How about a man seeking a lesbian couple? How about a gay couple looking for another gay couple? Whatever your kinks are, you’ll definitely be able to search for it at SexSearch.com. You can find someone for actual sex or cybersex, and a fuck buddy with the same fetishes as yours. However, the only downside is that there’s no quick way to contact other members unless you pay for their Gold or Silver memberships – which you were going to do anyway, because they’re definitely worth it.

AdultFriendFinder.com

This is probably the most sexual of the three sites. AdultFriendFinder’s member database is filled with thousands of explicit personal ads and photos. Obviously, the AdultFriendFinder members are looking for the same thing you are – fun and recreational adult action. The site allows you to contact other members via email – but without revealing your personal information. In fact, the other members won’t know your email address, phone numbers, and other contact information unless you give it to them! But AdultFriendFinder isn’t just a site that helps you find a fuck buddy – it’s a real online community too. You can meet new friends via the chatroom and even organize parties. There’s also an advice line that allows you to talk to trained sexperts if you have any questions or problems. They even have a free online magazine where you can read the best erotica online, and even collect helpful sex tips.

Whether you’re the average Joe, a foot fetishist, or a swinger, there’s definitely a site that caters to your distinct and sexy personality.

Tips and Tricks for Searching

Selecting a fuck buddy out of the millions of members in online dating sites seems like a challenging (but fun) task. Here are some tips that will help you find the fuck buddy of your dreams by using the simple search options available on online personals sites.

• Try to develop little “friendships” first. While you can jump right ahead and request for sex on your first email, that’s not the classiest thing to do now, is it? After all, one of the secrets of being a successful fuck buddy is knowing how to communicate with your partner. You can do that more easily if you have some kind of foundation to build up on.
• Be as specific as you can when searching. Most personals sites allow you to search for keywords, and you should use this function to narrow down your search. Some examples that you can use are the words “busty”, “bisexual”, etc – whatever interests you. If you have fetishes and fantasies, don’t forget to put them in as well – you never know if someone’s willing to make your sex fantasies come true.
• Don’t just go for conventionally beautiful women. There are two reasons why you shouldn’t limit yourself to women who look like models. First, a beautiful woman isn’t always exactly a great lover. You want a fuck buddy, remember? Not a trophy wife. Second, most people have sex in dim or no lighting conditions anyway and it’s not as if you’re required to go on dates with this woman. Your arrangement is for a fuck buddy, not a girlfriend that you’ll bring home to meet your mother.

The Perfect Fuck Buddy: Qualities to Look For

Having a great fuck buddy has its valuable rewards. You have to be on the lookout for the qualities of a great fuck buddy if you want to get into a truly pleasurable – in every sense of the word – experience. Here are the qualities that you should be looking for in a casual sex partner:

• It doesn’t matter if she can’t spell “good hygiene”, she just needs to have it. Nothing can put you off like a woman who doesn’t know how to take care of herself. “What’s that smell?” isn’t exactly the sexiest line to say in the bedroom.
• She has to be adventurous and experimental. What’s the point of getting a fuck buddy if you won’t get to try new things, right? You might as well sit at home and fly solo. It’s a very good sign if she proposes new things to try once in a while, and if she’s enthusiastic about fulfilling your fantasies.
• She has curves in all the right places. Of course, where these “right places” are totally depend on your individual taste. Some guys are into big breasts, while others give more importance to a woman’s derriere or her legs. As long as she’s shaped in a way that drives you wild, you’ll definitely be inspired to please her sexually.
• The less pressure you get from her, the better. Sometimes, guys get “performance anxiety”, especially when a women rush them or voice out certain sexual frustrations. Recreational sex is just that – recreation. There should be no mental stress involved. After all, you’re at your best when you’re relaxed.

The Fuck Buddy from Hell: Qualities to Avoid

Sometimes, a woman can be so beautiful that you overlook her negative qualities – and this often comes at a price. While there’s nothing wrong with appreciating the beautiful qualities of women, there are definitely some traits that you should watch out for if you want to get out of your fuck buddy experience unscathed. On the same vein, these are qualities that you should get rid of if you recognize them in yourself. If word gets out that you’re the fuck buddy from hell, then no amount of dating site registrations can save you.

• It’s hard to get rid of their need for codependency. Remember the first golden rule? Fuck buddies are all about fun, recreational sexual encounters. It’s a general rule of thumb that you shouldn’t have any emotional attachments or aspirations of commitment when engaging in a casual relationship.
• Some girls are just addicted to power. Believe me when I say that the last thing you need is a power-tripping fuck buddy who uses sex as a way to control you. It’s important to go through a casual relationship with your dignity intact. After all, it’s hard to get aroused when you’re feeling used.
• Beware of virgins. While cavemen pride themselves in being a woman’s “first”, there’s something wrong with that kind of scenario. First of all, I don’t mean virgin in the literal sense. A woman can have no sexual experience and yet be very interested in knowledgeable about sex. The types of virgins you should avoid are those who are too demure, too innocent, and girls who think that the word “buddy” is the key word in “fuck buddy”.

Summary…

Finding fuck buddies online is a simple and effective way to go about looking for recreational sex. It can definitely pay off if you know what you’re doing. Look forward to the nextreview, which will give you some tips on what to do with your fuck buddy. (Hint: it doesn’t involve making cookies or going to church)

INTERACTING WITH YOUR FUCK BUDDY